Your child has just been diagnosed with a disability and you are upset, confused, and angry. You still can’t believe it and you are already getting the “fight or flee” feeling in your stomach. What do you do?
First, take a deep breath. I know, this sounds beyond difficult, impossible, but it is necessary right now. Take a step back, and take a deep breath. You will have time to revise the words later. You will have time to look at reports, and you will have time to consult on them. For right now, you will need to breathe.
Second, take a look at your child. Your child needs you and will be there after the first shock of the news go away. Enjoy being with your child. Enjoy this moment. At the risk of sounding cliché I will tell you that moments are precious and will not come back. Your child will give you moments that will try your patience but will also give you moments of extreme joy. Be with your child, right now.
Last, do something for yourself. You will need to take care of yourself so that you can take care of your child. You will need the energy to be there and to fight. You will need the energy to withdraw whenever necessary. You will need the fortitude to be your child’s voice and your child’s advocate.
Above all, keep in mind that no ride through life is never without bumps. Some rides may be bumpier than others, but it is your very own bumpy ride anyway!